Avoiding Stubbornness in Divorce

How do we know when we’re being stubborn, versus when we’re simply demanding what is rightfully ours? It is not always easy to tell, and when you’re in the midst of divorce and stressed over assets and other important things, it is easy to confuse the two. For the sake of your stress levels, avoiding stubbornness in divorce to the best of your ability is one of the best things you can do.

Unhappy couple upset with marital problemsRemaining Flexible is Key

In being prepared for the process of negotiating during divorce, it is helpful to understand that you may not always be able to get precisely what you want. If you ask for something, there may be resistance. So, in order to avoid the risk of becoming stubborn in the face of that resistance, trying to be flexible is key. Have backup offers ready in case your initial offer or request is denied. You may not get exactly what you want, but you can probably get something with which you can be happy, eventually.

Pause to Consider Your Responses

When your spouse proposes something, or responds in a way that upsets you, it’s easy to react immediately, and more difficult to stop and think. However, if you make a point to be prepared to pause, you may just find yourself able to avoid crossing that line into stubbornness. Sometimes, it helps to be prepared for the negative reactions; plan for the possible responses that might lead to that, and know the best way to handle them.

Ask Yourself Why You’re Resisting

Sometimes, we don’t realize we’re being stubborn. If you’re standing your ground on a subject and getting nowhere, it may help to ask, “Why am fighting this?” Is it because you truly believe it’s worth the fight? If so, then it is best to let your attorney help you negotiate. If not, it might be best to take a step back and evaluate.

Avoiding stubbornness in divorce is often not an easy thing. When you need help navigating divorce in Florida, call on Miller Law.


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